5 ways to handle Inferiority Complex.

Have you ever felt ‘different’ to some set of people because they appeared superior or they talked intelligently or they were rich and classy? Have you ever felt a little hesitation when meeting new people because you think that you lack something and are scared of criticism?

These are all feelings of inferiority and when they take command over your life and makes you behave queerly or hesitatingly, that’s when you face inferiority complex.

Generally, the thought that you are an inferior to others pops up in your head maybe because you’re too skinny or you’re fat or you’re too short or you’re not doing well in your exams or you’re poor or you have some physical deformity or you’re always labelled with some bad adjectives by your peers or you haven’t been able to get over a past event or you’re not able to get into a relationship and the list can go really long.

Shunning away such thoughts and beliefs and uttering out loud that ‘I am not inferior to anyone’ will not really help. Had it been so simple then none of us would be haunted by these I-am-inferior thoughts.

Over the time, these thoughts of being inferior may clutter your mind which often leads to depression, shyness, hesitation and a downfall of self-confidence.

But then again, you can very easily get over all of it with the help of positivity, happiness and will-power. Below are the few basic things that you ought to keep in mind and follow to get over your inferiority complex.

What’s important is that none of us are born flawless. We all are an incredible mixture of qualities and flaws and that’s what makes us a normal being. Inferiority complex is the false belief that we create in our heads about ourselves. It’s how we view ourselves.

1. So, it is very important to have a pleasant self-image which does not mean that you will overrate yourself and live in your own world of make-believe. It’s going to hurt you even more when you will get into the reality. So, be pragmatic and accept the way you are. You are simply you and that is what is special about you.
2. Always try to improve yourself. By improving, I mean, to build your self-confidence and self-esteem, to stop being shy and over-conscious about what the others are thinking about you and so on. The more you will work towards your improvement, the more you will be environed with positivity. This very positivity will definitely inspire you to work harder. And you will soon find yourself improving.
3. Never ever compare yourselves to anyone and everyone. People are of different kinds. The more you compare, the more you are going to feel miserable. Rather compare your present self with the past one and see if you have improved.
4. Forget thinking about the negative things that may happen to you like “I don’t know if they’ll talk to me, I am so not up to their standards” or “I should leave, I look awful among these people” and so on. If you really start thinking negatively, there will be no end to it. Also, it makes you look nervous and strange as face is the index of mind. Just give a halt to all these thoughts and be free, you will feel much better
5. The last and the crucial thing, try to avoid such people who discourage you or make you think negatively about yourself. With such people around, your mind will always be clogged with negativity and hesitation.

So, let go off all your inhibitions. You were created to be you and not what people want you to be. So, the next time you feel inferior, give yourself some time, think about all of this and feel good about yourself because you are unique and you are simply you!

Peace.

Lost.

In a crowd of a zillion people,

In the hustle-bustle of the city streets,

In the conspiracies of the people around,

I am lost.

Lost in my own world.

Lost in my imagination.

Lost in some fantasy.

Lost in an abyss of thoughts.

Yes. I am aloof.

Away from the incessant gossips.

Away from their flaunts and brags.

I am lost.

I want to be lost forever

for it is going to keep the unreal world alive.

I want to live a life

in an imaginative world.

A world where people don't judge.

A world where there's silence.

A world where there's immense compassion.

A world where there's no space for lies.

Will you hold my hand?

And join me?

in a journey to an unreal world

where we will be happily lost.

Peace.

Google Plus vs. Facebook.

In a world, where people are into excessive social networking, Google introduces yet another social networking site to add up to the mayhem, Google Plus! It is said to have given the most popular social networking site, Facebook, a pretty good competition. People are now confused whether they should be in the blues of Facebook or roam around in circles on Google Plus.

Google Plus, to quite an extent, is a mixture of Facebook and Twitter. (Another widely used social networking site for miro-blogging.) The concept of adding up friends in your circles and having yourself in others’ circles is quite similar to the concept of followers in Twitter. Also, Google Plus looks very much like Facebook minus the advertisements.

There has been a great emphasis on the concept of circles in Google Plus. This concept of friends in circles has provided users with an easy and uncomplicated way to categorize friends and also to share selected updates with the selected set of friends that you choose. We can do pretty much the same in Facebook but this whole process is clumsy there and is definitely not as easy as Google Plus.

All about the circles.

This whole new circle based posting is reducing public posts to very closed circles thus there will be very less wall posts visible to us, but it can be a perfect tool for a close friends’ group to have social interaction, share photos, videos, etc. But then, if we come to think of it, we did not use Facebook or Orkut to keep in touch with our very close friends alone. It’s more of a news page of what is happening to ‘all’ our friends and who has commented what. The moment this news is cut off, I feel there is nothing else that engages us in this site. Over the time, everyone will start putting posts within closed circles and your wall activity will be filled by only very few posts posted by your close friends. The concept of randomly seeing what “other 100+ friends” are up to won’t exist. This may lead to the activity going down gradually. But then, at the same time, it also gives you the freedom to share a particular post with just your friends and not your teachers or family conveniently.

Another good thing about circles is that nobody can see which circle you’ve added them to. So, you may easily add someone to ‘Annoying People’ circle and they won’t even have a clue about it!

Some more features.

Google plus has this excellent feature of editing a post. An error or typo in any of your posts can easily be edited without even anyone knowing about it. You don’t have to re-post it, it updates automatically.

The +1 button of Google Plus is a clone of the ‘Like’ button of Facebook.

The graphics of Google Plus is also very interesting. What I found the most interesting is the way a circle vibrates and falls down and rolls to the right of the screen and then vanishes when you delete a circle. Try it in case you haven’t!

Facebook video chat is indeed an amazing feature that Mark Zuckerberg introduced but Google Plus’ video chat sure beats it. Hangouts on Google Plus provides us with a group video chat where we can video chat with multiple friends and we can also see youtube videos together with friends!

Google Plus does not have any options to write to someone directly unlike Facebook. Facebook lets us write directly on each other’s wall and also, it has pretty good private messaging tools.

Hopefully, there are still many more new and innovative features which are yet to arrive. Till then the Google Plus vs. Facebook arguments will continue. All in all, there are few features which are exclusive to Facebook and few which are exclusive to Google Plus. So, which do you think will grab your attention more?

Peace.

Why frown when you can smile?

Anger is a momentary madness, so control your passion or it will control you.

–Horace.

A lot of us have a habit of getting angry at trivial issues. Also, we have a problem when it comes to controlling our anger. Some of us even fail to realize it. There are times when we feel excessively angry, all we need to do then, is calm ourselves down because anger leads to words of wrath which in turn, ruins the peace of mind and sometimes relationships as well.

Knowing that you cannot control your anger, but not doing something about it, is like being awake but not aware. So, if you know that you have a problem, you got to find a solution to it. The idea that you cannot control your anger is a mere myth.

The truth is that you can control everything about you and your life, let alone anger.

At situations when you get angry, here’s what you can do:

• You can probably isolate yourself and do a little soliloquy to make yourself understand that things can be sorted out in a better way rather than getting angry and messing up. Though a little part of you may remain angry but your inner voice will help you keep a distance from anger. Remember, you are the best person to deal with yourself.
• Do some deep breathing. This will help you calm down and when you’ll calm down you’ll probably be able to think over the cause of your anger and cure it.
• You can always think about something/someone which/who you find soothing and try to divert your mind to the other happier things/moments so that you kinda forget about the being angry.
• Anger often happens due to stress. Stress leads to frustration and you vent out this very frustration by being angry. In our ever so busy lives, we often get stressed because of our work, so always love what you do and do what makes you happy and satisfied.
• Try overcoming anger by practicing it’s opposite virtues, such as, love and compassion.
• When angry, try to take a long walk in nature’s lap. Look at the trees, the sky, the roads, the people, feel the wind. You can also listen to your favourite music during your walk. All of this will definitely soothe you and lower your temper.
• Try not to speak when you’re angry because words spoken in anger are often harsh and coarse and they heat up the situation which in turn spreads negativity and makes matter worse.

You will be able to achieve the aforementioned tasks and be successful only if you have the determination. A determination to control your mind and overcome the anger.

By controlling your anger every time, I, of course, don’t mean that you should keep quiet and put up with injustice or something wrong. Instead of choosing anger, you should choose a peaceful way of handling it. Anger is something that is always there, but the best part is you have the full power to control it. So, relax, you have an amazing life and you wouldn’t want to ruin it by bringing in anger into it. Forget the frown, instead stick a smile (a genuine one) and see the world smiling back at you!

Peace.

Frandship Day!

Well, all of my friends are abuzz with frandship messages and sayings and quotes and all. Few of them called me up at 12 yesterday night! I see Facebook overloading with oodles of love and affection for friends. Status updates, wall posts, pictures, notes and what not! Twitter's trending topic is #FrienshipDay. I have been getting incessant texts and mails from my friends, even those ones who hardly ever talk to me, which said how much they love me and care for me and they'll stand by me at every situation of my life and all.

Come to think of it, if you really had SO many friends who would be there for you, come what may. Then, your life would be so much better and hassle-free!

I, of course, love it, a day specially for the ones who you've shared some crazy moments with, but, with the real good friends, do we really need a day?! With the true friends, we don't really need a day to express our affection because we express it every single day, sometimes unknowingly.

But then, I won't spoil the fun. With such friends around who love celebrating friendship day, I can't help but celebrate it. So, yeah, Happy Friendship Day! And, keep the "fraandzz" away!

Peace.

Oh! So embarrassed.

In our lives, there always comes a moment when we’re oh! SO embarrassed. And later, we strongly feel that it shouldn’t have happened. But , if you come to think of it, these are the little things that makes life worth living by adding up a string of fun and laughter.
There’s this moment when you’re doing something ridiculously stupid or something crazy happened to you and you desperately pray no one should notice you and it is an out-and-out feeling and that very moment you catch someone noticing you and you feel like “Why do you have to freakin’ look at me when I don’t want you to?!”.
These oh! So embarrassing moments happen to you randomly, maybe when:

You trip on a perfectly plain surface while walking with someone.

Your crush looks at you when you’re taking a real HUGE bite of your burger.

You say Hi to someone and they don’t look at you, instead someone else does. Or someone smiles at you and you smile back, then you realize that they were smiling at someone else.

You fall off a chair because it is broken and you did not notice.

You end up dropping water on your pants at a public place.

You, accidentally, spit while talking to someone.

You get into the wrong sex's wash room in a hurry.

You drop food on your clothes in public and there your shirt looks beautiful with yellow stains all over.

You spill water all over the table at a restaurant.

You keep the wrong foot forward. Er, as in you step on poop and you're in deep shit.

You send a wrong text to the wrong person at the wrong time.

And, there are many more….
Sometimes, such funny situations are sure embarrassing and are unavoidable and you can’t help but bear them. So, why do it with a frown when you can laugh it off! The best and simple way to handle such a situation is to shrug off a never mind and giggle at yourself. The idea is to smile and forget it.
So, the next time when something of this sort happens to you, you know what to do!

Peace.

Ima show you, how great I am.

In a crowd of thousands, there I stood with the spotlights on me in front of the huge cynical crowd. I watched the other girls giving their introductions and getting booed even before finishing it. It was my turn, I stepped out, I spoke and they booed. But, this was not what I wanted to happen, so I stood there and told them about how well I can sing. Somebody shouted out loud to sing something for them so that they can boo some more. Now, that’s what I wanted to happen. I sang and they were quiet. All they could do, after I finished, was cheer and applaud.
Do what you want to do and do it with absolute confidence and not the world can stop you. Let the second thoughts disappear, let go off all the inhibitions because it’s about you and your worth. Even if you have to face the failure, do it because only then will you know the real taste of victory.

And, now I leave y'all with this immensely inspirational video.

Peace.